Black. Lesbian. Writer.

I am used to being the person in a relationship that had it semi-together. I was the one with the steady (and bigger) paycheck, with the real grown up kind of job with growth opportunities…etc, etc… Having that behind me allowed me to do things for my other half like pay a bill or two…Or random surprises or trips…Simple things that showed my appreciation.

Anyone that has ever been in a relationship knows that it’s cheaper to be single. Hell, let’s even take relationships out of the equation, it’s cheaper not to date period. When you start to figure out … *Read the rest

Before my first girlfriend was my girlfriend, she was my friend. Wait, that might be a bit of a stretch. She was an associate. A classmate, in fact. I saw her everyday and while I didn’t pay a lot of attention to her, I did notice when she would come to class with swollen eyes. Her girlfriend would smack her around a little. She was beyond a whore, the supreme and ultimate flirt and her girlfriend felt that she had to smack her in order to keep her in line.

Obviously, that didn’t work. She kinda left her girlfriend. For … *Read the rest

Back by popular demand…Well, maybe I should say back by demand of Glennisha and Tami…I’ve been slacking on this weekly post, so these are for you two…

If I do an image search for lesbians, I usually run into something extremely pornographic as if we spend our entire lives engaging in sexual activity, so when I happen to run into an image that seems sweet and shows affection. I keep it. Every Friday, I’m going to share a picture with you. Here’s a little weekend love…

… *Read the rest

When SH and I were together we had a conversation about affection. She said that I would have to tell her to keep her hands to herself because she had been told that she was overly affectionate. She was excited when I said I was affectionate too.

I fibbed a bit when I told her this. Affection doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s something that I have to work on to make sure the person I’m with knows that I want them around. It’s not that I don’t want someone close to me. I love to be close, but it’s … *Read the rest

I found myself watching the season finale of the bachelor. He chose one girl, but couldn’t stop thinking about the other. Of course the first girl was upset, and I felt her pain. Within seconds I found myself writing a letter to SH and on her myspace page.

I didn’t send it. I do want to. Seriously, I do. Those unanswered questions still bug me. Anyway, this was the letter. I’m going to try my best not to send it. I pray for strength:

I’ll never have to wonder why girls act crazy over you. I got my answer. I

… *Read the rest

 “Love yourself, for if you don’t, how can you expect anybody else to love you?”

“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”

“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”

“You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find … *Read the rest