Black. Lesbian. Writer.

I have a friend that pokes fun at me and teases me much like an old lover. I’ll tell her how great she is. She’ll tell me how sexy I am. Cuddling with her is not an option, but a must. Physical affection is easy. And we often find ourselves discussing sex. Sex with each other, to be more specific, but we haven’t done it. She and I slip easily between exchanging verbal innuendo and discussing our latest heartbreaks. We do that because we’re friends, despite the sexual undertone our conversations might take.

I have another friend. We’ve already crossed … *Read the rest

Revisiting some of these older blogs and relating them to how I feel now wasn’t my plan when I found these old posts, but it’s working for me, so I’m gonna go with it…Maybe yall didn’t even realize that yesterday’s post was written almost a year ago…

I had a conversation with the Lil Monkey one day when I said to her almost the exact same words I used in the Love Without Expectations post. I told her that I didn’t know what it meant when someone says I love you back.

It was rather emotional for me, I’m sure … *Read the rest

As a follow up to The Sex Talk, I’ll tell you what’s changed…

Not much. My attitude towards straps is still slightly antagonistic. I’m in love with someone I trust though…and if anyone has ever seen her dance (*fans face*), you would understand that my curiosity about how the Lil Monkey would work a strap is perfectly normal.

We discussed it prior to me visiting. She wanted me to ask for it. I told her that a strap is something I would never ask for, lol… Might I remind you that I think penis is ugly? Plastic or real, … *Read the rest

Original Post Date: April 19, 2009

I have started writing this entry at least 15 times…It’s a little difficult to write because I’ve never really had to consider that the person I would be writing about would actually be reading. I’ve always revealed it all. That’s not going to change now…

I found myself having the sex conversation tonight. You know the conversation straight people don’t have to have because their sex lives are so completely straightforward. They don’t have to negotiate or clarify definitions.

There are things we both know about each other sexually. For her, sex includes a … *Read the rest

On the 27th of each month, I seem to be full of apologies. My behavior around that time is a bit emotional, a bit irrational and I’m overly sensitive.

Yes, it’s that time of the month.

My periods have always been irregular, with a cycle that was longer than the usual 28 days. I could never predict when my period was coming on…Until now. When my behavior starts becoming erratic and tears start to flow with the slightest provocation, I look at the calendar, I check my breasts for tenderness and I groan.

Deep down, I can see that … *Read the rest

Tonya: So this has to be just a wee bit difficult…especially when you want to scream from the rooftops that there are TWO SIDES to every story!! I’m assuming we’ll get yours….

When I think of HER, I remember some fun times in combination with a lot of really sad ones. The sad times were not necessarily because of her, but her presence in my life didn’t make those times any easier, if anything having her around exacerbated the situation.

From the beginning, we had fun together…Though I thought she was gorgeous, she was so femme that I didn’t immediately … *Read the rest

The biggest consequence of dating a writer is that they will probably end up writing about you. You may find a character that reminds you of yourself, or a situation might sound like something you went through. Now if you get mixed up with a blogger, that’s an entirely different story…

One of my exes is a blogger. I visited her blog recently. I don’t know why because this woman single handedly destroyed my self esteem. It is my intention to discuss the words she’s written about me, but I feel that I need to give a little bit of … *Read the rest