Black. Lesbian. Writer.

Why in the name of Womanhood have I not have the desire to sleep with anyone (female/male). My desire for men has disolved…. so have I embraced my sexuality …. but ok It has been 10 months…. the last time I chose celibacy it lasted 3 years and I am not going that route again! This is what I really would like to know is — How does one go about getting her groove back and getting back in the game?

Three years? You can’t hear me, but I am giving you a round of applause. The first thing … *Read the rest

Ok we all know the difference between right and wrong before I ever got the courage to casually flirt with my friend. I knew she was in a relationship and that they live together. I repeat I was respectful of their relationship. Well for some reason I believe my friend admitted that they were attracted to me. This is were the harrassment begings she would come into the store… casually pass by with friends and make snide remarks. Needless to say I became very alert whenever I knew she was in the store. Anyway as conversations, text and phone calls

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I’ll be waiting
I can’t smile until I see your smile
I’ll be waiting
There’s nothing else that I would rather do
I’ll be waiting
‘cus I can’t sleep until I hear your heart
I’ll be waiting
Patiently I’ll wait right here for you
Beyonce- Waiting

If you haven’t figured it out, we (She & I) have not met. It seems as though every lesbian that I’m remotely compatible with lives outside of a 500 mile radius. Sigh.

It doesn’t matter because even if she was here, I could not date her. I still have a month left on my … *Read the rest

I’m 32 years old. Despite the fact that I don’t look it, it is my reality.

I have been engaged. I have been called wifey and wife (and there is a difference). I have been given rings. I have purchased one ring…But look at me now. I’m single.

I have crushed. I have fucked. I have loved. I have moved. I have sacrificed. I have hurt. I have recovered…But still I’m single.

And while there is nothing wrong with being single, I can’t help but think I’m too old for this shit.

Where is my wife?

When my last girlfriend … *Read the rest

She told me a story about this man, a player, a pimp that journalled his exploits. When he was ready to settle down, he gave his journals to his bride-to-be. She questioned that move. Why would you do that? “If she still wants me after she reads all of that, then she really loves me.”

Hmmm…

I’ve spent quite a bit of time on Her blog. Yes, I said it. Her blog. I’ve been aware of Her work for some time, but I wasn’t a regular reader. Until now. Funny how that works, right?

When She told me the story … *Read the rest

On another post Kat asked: What are your thoughts on what those of us on this side of the story should do? Do we hide our accomplishments (just kidding)? Do we miss out on really great people by only dating ones that have completed the same check boxes and had the same life experiences (which sounds kinda dull)? How do we help the person we’re dating to feel like they are enough simply by being who they are?

The post that prompted these questions has to deal with career and finance, but I think if we get down to it, … *Read the rest

If you think of me
Half as much as I do you
Confide in me
Lets play for keeps
And I can tell you all the things
I longed to say
The future wants
We’ll find a way
And we can let it go
Goapele-Crushed Out

It doesn’t happen often that someone can render me speechless, but she has managed to do it. I find myself trying to write about her and my thoughts come out disjointed in small spurts, in incomplete thoughts. I know how I feel, but I can’t find the words to express the emotion…

A few … *Read the rest