Black. Lesbian. Writer.

It’s 2012. What does that mean to you?

I wonder why people (including myself) allow a calendar change to motivate self improvement. Is there something magical about the date having so many ones and zeros that will make it any easier for us to stick to our resolutions? I think there is something magical about the date that inspires us. Is that what it is?

Making resolutions is something we all do, even if we don’t vocalize it, blog about it, or post it on facebook. We make private resolutions, promises to ourselves to develop better habits or to make … *Read the rest

I remember hearing a tale from a “boi” about how a certain female repeatedly did things that had always previously been her role. A simple example was opening doors…

If there had been any type of sexual attention there, it would have fizzled at the so called acts of emasculation the girl continued to execute.

Emasculation:
1. to castrate.
2. to deprive of strength or vigor; weaken.
3. deprived of or lacking strength or vigor; effeminate.

So we’ll ignore the first definition, but the other two… It’s possible, right?

I remember very early on in my dealings with my first, … *Read the rest

I am just about recovered from Pride. For the record, I never really do pride. I really don’t think all of the partying does nothing to help form solidarity in our community. What’s the point of having performing artists at the club and jacking the price up?

I digress…

Sugar had friends here from Houston, so we did do the club thing one night, but that’s not what I want to write about.

Ever sit and observe people? I mean, it’s one thing to observe them when they are alone and something completely different when you observe them with their … *Read the rest

It’s a combination of her initials & mine. Many thanks to Pete of inkwerkzforher.com!… *Read the rest

I would love to be able to say that Sugar was my first love. Wouldn’t that be a great story? But she’s not. Had she been my first, I can’t say that we would be as strong as we are.

Love is just like any other skill. The more you do it, the better you are at it.

The women that came before her… I loved them, but not in the same way I love Sugar. I didn’t know I was capable of that type of love until she came into my life.

Unconditional love…

It’s a term that is … *Read the rest

“The sweetest woman in the world
Can be the meanest woman in the world
If you make her that way…”

Don’t ever underestimate the influence your partner has on you and your life.

I woke up early this morning, left Sugar balled up in our bed and felt compelled to write…

When you are in a relationship with someone that loves you it affects your entire world changes. I’m speaking the obvious? Let me expand on that…

When I say someone loves you, I mean they accept you exactly how you are. They know you, they know what to expect … *Read the rest

Question: I love my girlfriend. Thats why I’m looking for advice instead of just leaving. But here’s the thing, She isn’t fair with me. I have to give example of the most prominent thing that annoy me.

Her best friend is not to my liking. My girlfriend and I live together and for some reason she thinks its ok to give her best friend [whom is a guy by the way] a key and have him sleep over her whenever he pleases. I tell her this is our life and your friend shouldn’t have to stay here. He is your … *Read the rest