Black. Lesbian. Writer.

I would love to be able to say that Sugar was my first love. Wouldn’t that be a great story? But she’s not. Had she been my first, I can’t say that we would be as strong as we are.

Love is just like any other skill. The more you do it, the better you are at it.

The women that came before her… I loved them, but not in the same way I love Sugar. I didn’t know I was capable of that type of love until she came into my life.

Unconditional love…

It’s a term that is … *Read the rest

Hello!!! I love your blogs… && I must say my gf && I have been having numerous amounts of ups & downs lately… But the LOVE for one another is DEEP… STRONG… REAL… && TRUE… its just I need deeper insight… So here it goes… Social networking became a problem for her… So I stopped using Twitter.. Bc she is a lil jealous hearted… I even temporarily deactivated my facebook.page… But she still gets on Twitter.. Sometimes facebook… If I want to go hang with my bestfriend she gets jealous… I don’t mind when she spends time with her friends…

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How will I know?

I started singing as soon as I formed the question. Classic Whitney.

Anyway…

What are the signs?

Both questions that appeared in my inbox from one of my loyal readers. She is coming to terms with her sexuality and ready to act on her interest, but how?

It’s a question that comes up a lot for the newbie’s. Men? It’s fairly simple and obvious. Generally, most men don’t seek out friendships with women. If a man gives a lot of attention to a woman, he’s probably interested. He’ll make the first move. Easy as pie, right?… *Read the rest

Ideally, our wedding would be set at the Flying Mermaid’s castle in Arizona at dusk. There would be white lights twinkling all over highlighting lilies and lilacs. It would be an intimate group, small, mostly comprised of those that were willing to make the trip.

My bro Dani would be my boi of honor. My lil sister would walk me down the aisle. My dress would be the lightest gray. Strapless and barely skimming my knees. A sweetheart neckline would show as much cleavage as I could create and the back would dip low. My hair would be this huge … *Read the rest

During my sabbatical, I’ve had people admit to crushes, I’ve had people try to set me up, I’ve made new “friends.” Why now?

There is something about eliminating pressure from the “getting to know you” process that allows things to just flow. There is no pretext. No thought of expectations. We can exchange words. We can talk when we feel like it. We can do whatever because I’m not in the space where I can make demands of anyone.

To me it’s kinda like having someone tell you they are celibate. The anticipation or worry about how a date will … *Read the rest

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results -Albert Einstein

I was talking to my brother about relationships and women. Two of our favorite topics. Actually one topic if you think about it. You can’t have one without the other…

I’m looking back on my past relationships and I’m hoping there is a better outcome in my future. In order to get a better outcome, I must do something different right?

Do someting different. It sounds so simple… But romance is not a math problem. I can’t look at step 3 and add instead of … *Read the rest

I often compare the women I attract to baby birds with broken wings. I am a magnet for girls that need a bit of nurturing. Maybe they have a severely broken heart. Maybe they are jobless. Maybe they are homeless. Maybe they are esteemless (yes, I just made up my own word. shoot me).

I know how to help them get back in the sky again. I’m a natural nurturer. I know what to say and what to do to make a woman feel whole. I’m good at ego stroking. I can be supportive. I can help build you up.… *Read the rest