Aug.27.2010 at 1:30 pm | Alix B. Golden
Taken
You are out having dinner and the waitress leaves her number on the end of the receipt.
The girl you’ve spent months trying to win over leaves you a voicemail saying she misses you and yall need to get together ASAP.
A former lover sends nude pictures to your phone.
A friend confesses her long time crush.
The hostess at the club winks as she lets you in for free.
And none of these things matter because you’re sprung on your girl.
You are taken.
[tey-kuhn]-idiom:
Infatuated; fond of or attracted to; In a relationship
What is it about being taken that makes you more desirable to the world?
Is it a powerful alluring scent that draws people to you?
I believe there is something about being in a relationship that changes how you carry yourself. It’s something that happens so naturally you’re probably not even aware of it. You smile more. You’re friendlier. You’re more confident. You’re more relaxed. And that’s just to strangers on the street that may not even be aware of your status.
To the people that do know you…Well…I had a guy tell me that no one wants to be with someone that nobody wants… Sadly enough, some people find the fact that you are taken as an attractive trait. You are desired more because someone else desires you. Messed up right? Let’s not even throw out there the former lovers/friends/exes that suddenly realize they want to be part of your life because they don’t want anyone else to have you…
Do you get approached more when you’re taken? Why?
Check out the companion post from my companion, Billie Simone.
I don’t. But, we are always together so I feel for anyone who does approach. On the other hand, it’s good to get it out there and set the record straight. Some people like to act stupid whe you say you are “taken”– like they don’t know what it means.
Carry yourself like you’re in a happy relationship, even if you’re single.
When Jazz and I got together, girls (and guys) came out from all over the place sniffing around us. It was unreal! People definitely want what they cannot have, and they sometimes don’t take “No!” easily for an answer. So disrespectful! Also, if they are miserable out of love, then they can’t stand to see you blissful in love. They will try to kill your relationship. They do it for sport.
Good point. Awesome blog!
You know, a friend of mine brags that he can get another guy’s girl. I’ve never understood why he’s so proud of himself for that, but…
Anyway, I think there’s truth all up and through this, for sure and I think you hit on it Alix AND I think there’s an element of wanting what we can’t have… especially where exes are concerned. Not that we make it a point to notify all of our exes of new relationships, but when your ex is single, in the back of your mind you can always get him/her back, but when they’re taken… well… whoops!
Bueno, Alix!
I don’t know why this is so. Perhaps it is simply a part of human nature that makes us appealing to others when we are coupled. I think there is something to the magic of two beoming one when we stand together as a couple before the world. One would think envy springs up somewhere deep within onlookers, announcing to whosoever has eyes to see, that you have been Chosen. You are The Chosen One for someone. That is not even to say anything about intrinsic qualities that would make you truly irrisistible. Who would know about these, until folks give themselves the gift of getting to “know” you.
I love the way you put it, Alix. Folks get to falling out of thin air. It is amazing, though. We should bottle the majesty in the deed. And whenever we want someone just set a plot in motion to be “seen” with an attractive friend…and “see” what happens! Like a Shakespearean ruse to catch a fox!
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