Oct.25.2009 at 12:39 pm | Alix B. Golden
sparkless…
I met this girl about a month ago. The first time I saw her was about 2 months ago. I was excited about her, but I think part of the excitement was that she was obviously gay. I don’t see a lot of obviously gay girls just out and about. I saw her a few times before my obvious flirting motivated her to give me her phone number. She wrote it the back of someone else’s business card. The way she signed her name, it was like some abstract piece of art. Then I got excited about her, I love a creative mind….
That night we exchanged a few text messages before we talked. She had a slight northern accent. She’s a chef! She doesn’t do the whole lesbian role thing…So many things I learned, that I liked. So many things, but…that spark wasn’t there. That ended up being our first and only phone conversation. And I don’t feel like I’m missing anything.
The spark wasn’t there. I wasn’t excited about talking to her again. I wasn’t excited about the possibility of hanging out with her. How did that happen? Especially when she had so many of the traits I like in women.
She looked good on paper.
You ever had that happened to you? Where your logical mind says, “Yes, this person would be a good match for you, she is this and this and this…” But your body, your heart, doesn’t feel so inspired to take the next step.
In these situations, when your mind and your heart are at odds, which one do you find yourself more inclined to listen to?
I tend to follow my heart even if it does have a bad sense of direction.
I have usually listened to my head; I have always regretted it. My trouble is that I rarely find myself feeling that spark. When I do, either the feeling isn’t mutual or she is unavailable. At 49, I’m losing hope of *ever* having a relationship where I’m “in love” as opposed to loving/being loved.
.-= Stephen´s last blog ..Twitter Weekly Updates for 2009-10-25 =-.
Oh my fucking GOD! Puppy, I do believe you met that SpaceBaby of mine I told you moved back there with her family around the same time you did! I’ve got chills! I mean how many Black Lesbian Chefs could there be there??? And I’m damn glad you steered away — your instincts are sharpening. I’ve come to realize that woman’s psychotic. Though I’m not entirely sure of her diagnosis (Borderline/Narcissistic combo?), I do know she’s got an extreme case of dramatitis! And no, by the way, just because she’s probably a Borderline Personality, doesn’t — this time — mean I’ve had any kind of thing with her!
As for your question, I never pay a damn bit of attention to anything but my heart, as I reckon you know!
I follow my heart, more often than I should, which explains how I ended up states away in Florida for a week with a woman a few months back. However, the brain has ruled the roost too and was why I stayed in a long term relationship for far too long and is probably why I am still single because of my high standards even though I know in my heart there are plenty of “good” people I’ve come across in my life, it’s just not what I think I want or need.
*Hug* Stephen – Don’t give up!
Yeah maybe you should try your heart and just,,IDK try it out. At least then you can say I tried..
.-= blueinthefaceangel´s last blog ..Fresh life =-.
Heart or head eh? As a true Libra I try and balance the both. My head gets me to you, but my heart gets me to stay and then my head tells me that even if my heart is happy, if the shit don’t make sense, love aside, things will not work and there is no sense in creating a bad situation.
.-= Cherina´s last blog ..The Morehouse Dress Code: Did They Get It Right? =-.
I used to hate it when that’d happen to me. You’ve become so attracted to them from a distance that when you finally get the time you wanted it’s nothing. I always say that maybe it just wasn’t meant to be, and maybe this lady just wasn’t for you.
.-= Bee´s last blog .. =-.
I tend to follow my heart when it’s best I follow my head, and I follow my head when it’s best I follow my heart. Either way isn’t always in my best interest, but ultimately I’m bound to find my way through and I trust my heart enough to follow its lead as it relates to matters of the heart. I’ve resigned myself to accepting that everything in my life up to now has happened for a reason.
.-= knowledge´s last blog ..trans men and butch women: a summary perspective =-.
Flying Mermaid: Actually, I know a lesbian chef that lives here in KY. She’s a teacher too. Maybe it’s more common than you think.
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